Today I want to share with you something that God pressed upon my heart at the end of 2016 in my personal devotion time as I was seeking guidance on what goals I should pursue in 2017.
In December I decided to read through the book of Proverbs, reading one chapter a day. One morning I just couldn’t get enough of God’s wisdom so I opened up Ecclesiastes and read the first chapter.
Ecclesiastes 1:11 says, “We don’t remember what happened in the past, and in future generations, no one will remember what we are doing now.”
That really hit me. I sat there and started to think about the things I’m pursuing right now and how no one will really know about them in 50-100 years. Even my future family (grandkids, great grandkids) won’t know too much about me.
If you think about it, how well do you even know your great grandparents? I don’t even really know my great grandparents on either side of my family. I couldn’t really tell you anything about them.
I thought to myself… what is it that people are going to know about me?
And, what is it that I’m spending my time doing right now? Is it lasting?
As I sat there pondering these thoughts, I went off on a completely different tangent as I spoke to the Lord and said, “Lord, sometimes I feel so much anxiety because I feel like if I do ‘this’ or ‘that’, that I’m just going to mess up my children.” I was anxious about making a decision to pursue some of my passions because I didn’t want it to affect my kids in a negative way. Can you relate?
You see, I want to make a positive impact on my children that wil be lasting. As I went from one tangent to the other, I felt God press upon my heart saying, “Well, Gina, what have I done every time you’ve gone astray or made a bad choice?”
I thought about my twenties when I didn’t always make the best choices. I loved the Lord, but there was definitely one year where I fell into rebellion a little bit. I thought about that time. I said to God, “Well, you’ve always pulled me back on track.”
He responded, “Correct. I’ve always brought you back and I’m going to do the same thing for your children. They’re going to go through the same thing, and I’m always going to pull them back as long as you hide me in their heart.”
Wow! Hearing that gave me so much freedom. Why?
First, because now I know what my #1 goal should be…. to hide God and His Word and truth into the hearts of my children.
The only thing that lasts is God. The way we make sure we make an impact is by depositing Him into the hearts of our children who will then pass it along to the next generation.
This seriously messed me up that day, in a good way!
Second, this gave me freedom.
As I was asking God where He wants me to invest my time regarding my business, it’s as if God said to me that I am free to pursue my passions outside of my kids as long as I’m putting in the effort to hide Him into their hearts.
Psalm 40:8 says: “I take joy in doing your will, my God, for your instructions are written on my heart.”
And, Psalm 119:11 says: “I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.”
It’s our job to introduce God’s instructions so that they are written on the hearts of our kids.
If you’re struggling to figure out what your personal or business goals should be for this year, I want to ask you these two questions:
First, will your goals take away time from depositing God’s truth into the hearts of your children?
You and I chose to be stay at home moms for a reason, right? I can’t speak for you, but I know for myself that I wanted to be home with my kids so could have the flexibility to be there whenever they need me. I didn’t want to be bound to a job that would require me to work 40 hours a week and ask for permission to take care of my kids when they were home sick from school.
So, if you choose to pursue a business from home, you want to make sure that you are still available for your kids and have the flexibility that you intended to have, right? There’s no sense in working from home all hours of the day and being chained to your desk more than you would be in an actual office.
You have to ask yourself if your business goals will take away from perhaps the precious hours you have in the evening with your kids and husband. When are you taking the time to intentionally deposit God into your child’s heart?
The second question I want to ask you is if your goals will cause you to exhibit God’s fruit in your life or will it cause you to exhibit the flesh (or sinful nature) to those around you (including your kids)?
Galatians 5:22-23 says: “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!”
Are you bearing these kinds of fruits in your life? Do your goals have an impact on the fruit that you bear?
You see, the opposite of the fruits of the spirit would be anxiety, anger, frustration, selfish ambition, pride, not having self-control…
Do your goals cause you to be overwhelmed, frazzled, or anxious? Anxiety and overwhelm are not from God. They are fruits of the flesh (things that are part of our sinful nature that we need to ask God to remove). God wants us to have peace, joy, and self-control. If your goals cause you to produce the opposite of these, then perhaps they are not the right goals. Chew on that!!
Remember, you set the tone in your household. It’s not worth pursuing something that affects your household in a negative way.
One of the ways that we hide God’s truth into our children’s heart is by action and showing them how to live a life that is filled with joy that only comes from Christ. We need to show them how to live a life that is free of overwhelm and anxiety.
As you’re setting goals for this year, I hope these two questions have challenged you and given you something to consider and think about.
Remember your purpose and ask God where He would have you put your time and attention toward this year.
Watch the video below as I shared this testimony in our Community group on Facebook!
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